Quality time with kids – 10 minutes is all it takes
We all live with the idea that it takes a lot of time and effort to spend quality time with kids. When playing with our children becomes a burden, we must definitely have change the strategy. In this article, we’ll cover the easiest way to make “quality time with kids” be a priority which both you and your children will enjoy every single time.So let’s dig in!
Imagine this: you’re talking to your other half, it’s quite important to you, one of your clients has left a negative review. You’re halfway the story and you notice him scrolling on his smartphone instead of actively listening. He’s completely blind to anything that happens outside his own, little, virtual world. How does that make you feel?
Don’t you feel like you’re worthless? Like a bunch of virtual people trapped in a metal case matters more than your pain?
Well, I hate to be the one to ruin your party, but this is exactly how your child feels like when you’re “half-playing” with him. Or “half-having-lunch” or “half-anything” actually.
When you divide your attention between his needs and whatever it is that you have to do beside that, your child feels like he does not matter. You might think that your business is far more important than rescuing a puppy from an imaginary dragon, but you would be wrong. Oh, so wrong!
The most important thing for your child is whatever she is doing now, and she wants you to be a part of it. She wants you to be the knight that rescues the puppy. So you basically have the most important role of the story.
That should make you feel so proud! That Zoom call or catch-up message can wait. Spending a good quality time with kids doesn’t have be hard.
The thing is, children learn a lot through play. Playing is an important part of their development. It’s how they make sense of the world, it’s how they learn concepts such as “sharing” or “helping”. More than that, playing is an amazing tool to build a connection. It’s right there, at your fingertips, and it’s completely free. Reading has the same effect, of course. Storytelling is another important part of raising a healthy, confident child.
But if you don’t have hours to spend playing with your children, and most of us don’t, due to, well, LIFE, then what I would suggest is that you plan out 10 minutes/day to focus entirely on this.
10 minutes without distractions – it’s all it takes to spend some quality time with kids
Schedule a perfect time to do it, maybe in the morning, before school drop-off or in the evening, just before bedtime, or even in the bath tub. Tell your child it’s “me and you time” and that he has your full attention for 10 minutes. Leave your phone in a different room, make sure you tell your partner what you’re up to, and be there. Just be there and enjoy the moment. Either you’re playing or reading a story, be in the moment.
This way, you reinforce your child the belief that he truly matters to you and that he can trust you.
I know it might sound so absurd. “JUST 10 minutes/day to spend with my child? This is ridiculous, I used to spend hours with my mum when I was little and she seemed to be pretty present to me.” True story, friend. I would know, I had an amazing childhood.
I used to play all day long when I wasn’t in school. I remember I used to pull my mum’s skirt when she was cooking. I would go endless circles around her feet, until she’d finally gave up and she’d follow me. We used to play with her every single day! She always had a smile and a kiss at the end.
But those were different times. Technology was something we couldn’t even picture as kids. The only “technological” thing we had around the house was an old turntable.
I miss those times, but the reality is that nowadays we have to fight technology to some extent.
These 10 minutes/day are an important first step. One that you will lead the way to many other “me and you times”. The key is to start small, because 10 minutes is manageable. Soon you’ll find 20, then 30, then 1 hour. No distractions, no cheating.
So tell me, how do you connect with your children?
Until next time,